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progress. . .

Posted on: May 6, 2011

Things are (very, very slowly) starting to come together! A year from this weekend (yesterday, to be exact!) is our Jack and Jill! I’m far too excited for that! We’ve got the caterer locked in for our at-home reception, and we are booking the hall for it tomorrow morning. Once that is done, I will feel so much better. I went to a travel agent last night and got a few magazines, but unfortunately, we won’t be able to book anything for quite a while because we’re still early – the packages won’t come out until August/September of this year most likely. However, I’m going to start emailing resorts to find out about wedding packages. Once that done, I’ll start working on Save the Date cards and invitations. The fun part will come in the summer/fall when I start looking for dresses . . . 🙂


A destination wedding means some people (many who are very important to us, like our grandparents) may not come. Alex and I have both accepted that, but we know we have to have a reception when we get home for everyone else. I originally wanted to keep this reception fairly small and intimate. I don’t want a sit-down, plated meal. I want a cocktail party with hors-d’oeuvres early on in the night, around 6:30, and a buffet around 9:30. We don’t want a full second wedding; this reception was just intended to be a night to celebrate with the people who couldn’t make it to our destination wedding. I wanted to try and keep the guest list under 200 people.

That’s not going to happen.

My first draft of the guestlist – a rough version that didnt even include much of Alex’s side – had more than 260 people on it. I have a huge family. And besides that, I have a very blended family. Between my mom’s side, my dad’s side and my stepdad’s side, my list of family guests topped in at more than 120. Alex’s mom came up with a guestlist of almost 80 people. Add a few friends, our wedding party and us – and it’s not going to be very intimate!

But what can we do? There are only so many cuts we can make. Family is so important, and we both want to have friends there. Although money is an issue, we’re more worried that we won’t be able to get a chance to visit with everyone – or, we’ll be talking to everyone and not have a chance to enjoy the night.

Sigh . . .


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